RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL STUDENT’S MANUAL MAIDEN SPECIAL FOR YOUNG ADULTS AND YOUTHS (YAYA)
SUNDAY 18TH APRIL 2021
TOPIC: BEFORE YOU SAY ‘I DO’
SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee
5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
RCCG TOPICS THIS WEEK
MEMORY VERSE: “Test all things; hold fast what is good”. — 1Thessalonians 5:21 (NKJV)
BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 29:11-20
Then Jacob kissed Rachel, and lifted up his voice and wept.
And Jacob told Rachel that he [was] her father’s relative and that he [was] Rebekah’s son. So she ran and told her father.
Then it came to pass, when Laban heard the report about Jacob his sister’s son, that he ran to meet him, and embraced him and kissed him, and brought him to his house. So he told Laban all these things.
And Laban said to him, “Surely you [are] my bone and my flesh.” And he stayed with him for a month.
Then Laban said to Jacob, “Because you [are] my relative, should you therefore serve me for nothing? Tell me, what [should] your wages [be?”]
Now Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder [was] Leah, and the name of the younger [was] Rachel.
Leah’s eyes [were] delicate, but Rachel was beautiful of form and appearance.
Now Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, “I will serve you seven years for Rachel your younger daughter.”
And Laban said, “[It is] better that I give her to you than that I should give her to another man. Stay with me.”
So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed [only] a few days to him because of the love he had for her.
The foundation of a godly marriage must be properly laid on sound moral and biblical principles. Before the exchange of vows, where the Christian brother and sister will say ‘I Do’, they should have passed through the phase of courtship and ensure that all things are done decently and in order (1Corinthians 14:40; Amos 3:3), The intending couple should also watch out for some ‘red flags’ before saying ‘I do’.
1. THE IMPORTANCE OF COURTSHIP
2. RED FLAGS TO WATCH OUT FOR
THE IMPORTANCE OF COURTSHIP
Christian courtship is that period before marriage when a Christian brother and sister make plans, relate and reach a compromise on so many issues pertaining to their future together. Courtship is very important and necessary for the intending couple to observe, during which proper biblical foundation must be laid in order to have a happy married life (1Thessalonians 5:21). One vital issue that must be addressed during this period is to obtain the consent of both parents (Genesis 24:54-59). Courtship is also a period to get to know each other intimately apart from carnal knowledge and illicit romance (1Corinthians 6:18-20; Romans 12:1-2). Intending couples can pray, study the Bible or attend Christian programmes together but avoid hanging out in secluded and tempting places (2Corinthians 2:11;1Thessalonians 5:22).
Discussion should cover their dreams, vision, purpose for living, plans, fears, health status/history and past relationships (if any). They should endeavour to discover each other’s strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, differences (upbringing/orientation, cultural background), etc.through observation and by asking questions. Intending couples should be open and sincere with each other in all aspects of their dealings (financial status, sources of income, etc). There should be no pretence or deception (stage management of character). It is also also expedient that you undertake marriage counselling lessons together during courtship (Proverbs 11:14).
RED FLAGS TO WATCH OUT FOR
There are a number of”red flags”to watch out for before entering a permanent marriage relationship. Unfortunately, these indicators may not be visible until after the wedding takes place, since some Christians are skilled at hiding their true nature or change with circumstances. However, a short list of things to look out for includes irrational jealousy, deception, the strive to be in control (dominate the other partner), psysical or emotional abuse/violence, a quick (hot) temper, cruelty towards animals, adherence to unscriptural traditional values, attempts to isolate the other person from his or her friends and family, a show of dislike for would-be in-laws, defiance to spiritual matters, drug or alcohol abuse, smoking, disrespect for boundaries, privacy/personal space or low moral values.
If you see any of these warning signs or other strange behaviours in a person you are entering a marriage relationship with, please pray and seek advice from your spiritual leader or marriage counsellor before you say ‘I Do’ (Mark 14:38; Proverbs 15:22; 19:20). Marriage should not be viewed as a ‘do or die’ affair. You have a destiny to fulfil (Jeremiah 29:11). You may consider the saying that ‘ a broken courtship is better than a Broken marriage’ and make a wise/informed decision (Ecclesiastes 10:10; 1Corinthians 7:15b).
Watch and pray before you say ‘I DO’
1. Discuss the importance of courtship
2. Mention some of the red flags to watch out for before you say’I Do’