RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL TEACHER’S MANUAL LESSON THIRTY-THREE SUNDAY 18TH APRIL 2021
TOPIC: SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE (PRT 2)
SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN
1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,
Does manifest in thee.
4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee
5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
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OPENING PRAYER
Father, help all couples to build their family through wisdom from above. Let understanding preveil in every marriage.
MEMORY VERSE: “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established”. — Proverbs 24:3
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1CORINTHIANS 7:2-5
1 Corinthians:7.2
Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians:7.3
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
1 Corinthians:7.4
The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband [does.] And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife [does.]
1 Corinthians:7.5
Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
INTRODUCTION
We have learnt that sexual intimacy create a special bond between a man and his wife with basic facts supported by scriptures and it is numerous benefits. it is equally necessary to discuss some of the challenges facing couples in the area of sexual intimacy. (SOS. 5:1-6). It should be noted that in some homes or families certain problems or conflicts can be traced to unsatisfactory sexual relationship (1Corinthians 7:2-5). The good news is that these challenges can be remedied.
TEXT REVIEW: 1CORINTHIANS 7:2-5
Fornication is a menace which the devil employs to distract youths from marriage. It is the devil’s ploy to blindfold the youths from getting married. The Almighty God provides some solutions to marital infidelity or fornication and adultery. This, among others,is marriage. God said, let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband. 1Cor.7:2. Identify other five solutions to marital intimacy challenges as indicated in 1Cor.7:2-5.
I. ______
II. _______
III. ________
IV. ________
V. _________
LESSON OUTLINE
1. LIKELY CAUSES OF SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
2. SOME REMEDIES FOR SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
LIKELY CAUSES OF SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
While some challenges of sexual intimacy and spiritual, quite a lot of these challenges can be traced to the following:
i. Myths, misconceptions, Wrong cultural orientations or unscriptural spiritual inclinations about sex e.g. women should not initiate sex or enjoy it.
ii. Fear of conceiving another baby. Some couples either lack the knowledge of appropriate family planning techniques or have refused to deploy the techniques that can prevent unwanted pregnancy (Hosea 4:6)
iii. Previous experiences of sexual abuse directly or indirectly.
iv. Libido (sex drive) issues or inadequate foreplay (inability to discover and /or explore the erogenous part of the body).
v. Health challenges which may either be a physiological all psychological e.g Erectile dyfunction, fragility (cold-heartedness), not-in-the-mood syndrome complications during childbirth, illness, etc.
vi. Infidelity and lack of trust (Hebrews 13:4)
vii. Sometimes sexual appetite decreases in women after menopause whereas is there’s a minimal decline in the sexual drive of men (Genesis 18:12).
viii. Lack of understanding of love languages and/or things that turn them on or off.
ix. Communication issue and busy schedules
x. Environmental factors – being conscious of the presence of third-party in the surroundings (children, relatives, neighbours etc). Unpleasant noise, etc.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1
The class should discuss how each of the ten items listed above should be addressed to overcome sexual intimacy challenges. The class should also discuss how the problem of sexual abuse could be prevented among the youth.
SOME REMEDIES FOR SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
i. Prayers: Couples should commit their sex life into God’s hand the same way they do for other aspects of their lives. This is also the only antidote to demonic influences (Philippians 4:6-7).
ii. Counselling: It is not a shameful thing to seek medical/psychological help when faced with sexual intimacy challenges (Proverbs 11:14;24:6).
iii. Communications: If you observe that your sax life is on the decline, bring up the topic and talk it out (Amos 3:3).
iv. Time and Stress Management: Married couples should create time out of their tight schedule to be intimate and cut off stress-inducing factors as much as possible (Ecclesiastes 3:1;8:6).
v. Self development: couples should look inward and work on their weaknesses and the immediate environment that could turn off either of the party (2Corinthians 13:5).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2
The class should discuss the role of adequate communication in marriage and sexual intimacy and the role of effective prayers as a tool to prevent the possibility of sexual intimacy challenges in future.
SUMMARY
The admonition of Apostle Paul to the couples in 1Cor.7:3 which says”Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband”,is a very good solution that if prayerfully applied can solve many sexual-intimacy challenges.
CONCLUSION
Avoiding your spouse especially in the area of sexual intimacy is creating a space that will be occupied by something or someone else.
CLOSING PRAYER
Father, help couples to humbly accept their faults and fathom out their marital intimacy challenges.
ASSIGNMENT
Identify five (5) causes of sexual intimacy challenges and solutions to the challenges.