RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL TEACHER’S MANUAL SUNDAY 30TH MAY 2021
TOPIC: THIRD QUARTER REVIEW: (SUMMARY OF LESSONS 27-38)
TOPIC: THE CHRISTIAN APPROACH TO INVESTMENTS
BIBLE PASSAGE: Luke 19:11-27.
MEMORY VERSE:”Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: he that gathereth by labour shall increase.” Proverbs 13:11.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: In the parable of the talents in Luke 19:11-27, Jesus makes it clear that He expects his followers to be faithful stewards of the resources that He has put at their disposal. Good stewardship
includes wise investments. Many believers find it difficult to adopt a practical theology for money management and investing for a distant and uncertain future. The Bible, however, offers practical wisdom on investing the resources we have with insight and foresight.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES FOR INVESTMENTS AND SAVINGS
i. Teacher should find out from students what savings and investments mean
ii. Teacher should explain investments as act of putting money and or other resources into real business (has to do with people, product or services) with hope of receiving return on investments.
iii. A well managed business will yield returns on investment. Prov. 31:10-31; Eccl. 11:1-6.
iv. Class should discuss the line of businesses which a believer could invest in, in the light of their followings:
a. Real estate.
c. Ventures, stocks, shares, bonds, etc.
v. Some don’ts of investments:
a. Do not invest in what you do not have understanding or or have experience in. Prov. 24:3-4.
b. Avoid get rich quick scheme or investments. Prov. 13:11; Prov. 21:5.
c. Do not invest what you do not have.
d. Do not invest what you cannot afford to lose.
e. Do not accumulate debt in the name or investment. Prov. 22:7.
f. Do not invest because a Christian offers it. This may not guarantee against loss.
vi. Invest in your personal education. it opens doors of opportunities for you.
vii. Invest in your children’s education. it secures your future.
viii. Save for the future.
ix. Saving is biblical. Gen. 41; Prov. 6:6-11; Prov. 21:5.
x. Saving honours God as it rightly values money as a gift from above. James 1:17
xi. Avoid unplanned impulsive or unwise spending
xii. Saving demonstrates that we value what God has graciously given us. Luke 12:47-48.
xi. Saving may be a means of leaving an inheritance or blessings to your heirs, children, wards and others. Proverbs 13:22
LESSON OUTLINE 2: REASONS FOR INVESTMENTS
i. Wealth Creation: investing your money will allow it to grow and compound. You earn money on the money already earned and create wealth over time.
ii. Beat Inflation: Returns from investment help to maintain the purchasing power at a constant level. lf you do not beat the inflation rate, you will be losing money, not making money.
iii. Retirement: You should invest while you are earning so as to create a mass of funds that can be used when you retire. This provides security to maintain a comfortable life-styie even after retirement.
iv. Accomplish Financial Goals: Investing can help you reach bigger financial goals. This return on your investments can be used towards financial goals, such as buying a home, buying a car, starting a business, or putting your children through school.
v. High Returns: Investing would help to achieve high returns as compared to banks savings account which provides little return.
i. Savings and investments are biblical.
ii. Both have principles which applied would bring returns.
iii. Savings and investments have tremendous benefits.
CONCLUSION: Investing into the future is not an act of anxiety, everyone must save for the raining day. In order to build wealth, you should invest your money.
LESSON TWENTY-EIGHT (28)
RCCG THIS WEEK
TOPIC: THEOLOGY OF RETIREMENT
BIBLE PASSAGE: Numbers. 8:23-26
MEMORY VERSE: “The days of our years are threescore and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; it is soon cut off, and we fly away.” Psalms 90:10.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: According to the common state of life, man has between seventy and eighty years to live on the general average (Ps.90:10). We can therefore deduce that life is lived in four quarters. Twenty years each. “0 to 20 years of age is the first quarter (formative years), 21 to 40 years is the second (creative years), 41 to 60” is the third (consolidating years), and “61 to 80 is the fourth (retirement years). The body also starts to fall apart in the fourth quarter signaling the need to slow down or stop some activities, hence the need for retirement. Retirement, therefore, is the withdrawal from one’s position or occupation or from one’s active working life.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: WHY AND HOW SHOULD A CHRISTIAN RETIRE?
A. WHY RETIREMENT?
a. Teacher should ask the students to explain why retirement is essential.
b. leacher should add the folloWing reasorns stated below as answers:
i. lt provVIdes opportunity to rest arter long service.
ii. Itallows for injection of young and energetic blood into the work system.
iii. It gives room for introduction of new Ideas into tne service.
iv. It is designed as means of handling over the baton to a new generation.
v. It paves way to do the worK better and in a new way.
B. Teacher should ask students to mention some examples of leaders who retired in the Bible.
i. Moses. He handed over to Joshua. Num. 27:18, 22.
ii. Eljah. He handed over to Ellsha. 1 Kings 19:16.
iii. Paul. He prepared Timothy to take over. 2 Tim. 2:1-2; 4:7-8.
C. HOW SHOULD A CHRISTIAN RETIRE?
i. Upon attainment of certain mandatory age as spelt out by the organisation. For instance, Levites were to retire at the age of fifty years (50vyrs). Num. 8:24-26
ii. Christians should prepare for retirement by saving and investing during their active service. Prov. 21:20; 2 Cor. 12:14.
iii. Christians could meet financial experts and pension administrators who have legal recognition for advice.
iv. Christians should pray, study and seek the face of God for guidance.
v. Preparation for retirement is essential to meet the needs during the winter i.e old age. Prov. 6:6-8; 2 Thess. 3:10.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: WHAT TO DO IN RETIREMENT
i. Retirement from active service does not translate to retirement from God’s service.
ii. Two very old people in the Bible (Simeon and Anna) still continued to serve the Lord faithfully despite their old age. Luke 2:25-38.
iii. Christian retirees can engage in the following activities:
a. They can continue to minister in fasting and prayer as Anna did at age eighty-four (84) years. Luke 2:36-37.
b. They can teach/counsel and mentor the young believers in the way of the Lord. Titus 2:2-5.
c. They can connect with families and friends. Prov. 18:24.
d. They can travel and visit some places of interest.
e. They can engage in some recreational and light physical exercises.
f. They can engage in gardening.
g. They can learn something new, or rekindle good old hubbies which are not strenuous.
h. They can engage in communities services or communal activities for the overall interest of others.
i. They can commence/extend their cottage business without stress.
j. They can be occupied with philanthropic/charity activities.
k. Christian retirees should depend on God and avoid a lifestyle that is not accordance to the word of God.
l. Christian retirees should avoid reckless pursuit of vanities and be moderate in their
pleasure. Luke 12:16-21, 1Tim 5:6.
m. Christian retirees should be prayerful.
SUMMARY: i. Retirement plans and activities are supported by the Scripture to glorify God.
ii. Christian retirees have host of activities they can engage in to bless the Lord and mankind.
CONCLUSION: The psalmist’s prayer should be our prayer as we age: “Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, God, till I declare
your power to the next generation, your might to all who are to come” (Psalms 71:18).
LESSON TWENTY NINE (29)
TOPIC: REBUILDING PARENTS-CHILDREN BRIDGES
BIBLE PASSAGE: Ephesians 6:1-4.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
MEMORY VERSE: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”Ephesians 6:4.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: Building Parents Children bridges can be an uphill task. It is obvious that there is a generational gap between Parents and their children. When we compare two generations and when there is a considerable differenceiyn the lifestyles, habits, likes and dislikes of the people belonging to
these separate times, problems due to age gap arise. It is no secret that these days, these gaps are widening by width and bounds. This lack of understanding of social, moral, political, musical, fashion or religious opinion leads to lack of
acceptance which is the primary reason families break.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: CAUSES OF RELATIONAL GAP BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILDREN
NOTE: See how to handle this outlines under the activities below:
i. Generational Gap: Generational gap means being born and living around the same time, also known as ‘coevals. When there is a significant gap of time among two coevals, it is defined as ‘generational gap’. A generation gap or
generational gap is a difference of opinions between one generation and another regarding beliefs, politics, or values. 1 Kings 12:3-10.
ii. Culture Shift: Modification of a way of life through innovation, invention, discovery, or contact with other societies. It derives from the experience of encountering new ways of doing things that challenge the basic belief that your
doing things is the “correct” way (Gen. 29:25-26).
iii. Need for Space: Parents feel protective about their children and they like to be involved and be informed about the things that are happening in their children’s lives. However, the younger generation feels a need for space as they are discovering and experimenting with new things. Judges 14:1-3.
iv. Thought-Flow Differences: Parent’s morals and views of life can be very different from their children’s. This can lead to either imposition of
ideals/decisions or friction/resistance on the part of the children. Judges 14:3.
v. Little or no Attention/Support: The busy schedules of many parents, as a result of their career or other engagements, have severed the relationship they have with their children. Children from such homes suffer from lack of
attention, emotional/psychological support, etc. 1 Sam. 16:11.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: BRIDGING THE GAP
A. Treat Lesson Outline 2 as that of the outline 1 above as stated under the activities below.
The reality of a generation gap is only in terms of age. If parents put aside their ego and look at things from an entirely different perspective, they would perhaps never have a gap between them and their children. Here are some tips on how parents can bridge the gap between them and their children:
i. Communicate constantly: When parents communicate respectfully at an opportune time with their children, they are letting them know that they are willing to do all it takes to lessen the age gap and understand things from the
points of view. Prov. 25:11.
ii. Listen and understand: Parents sometimes tend to talk too idealist. They should rather learn to listen, let their children voice their opinions for better understanding. Nagging or giving lectures all the time is not a good idea. Col.3:21, Eph. 6:4.
iii. Be open-minded: When parents open their hearts, they look at things in a new perspective . This is very important if they must understand their children’s own priorities and habits. 1 Thess. 5:21.
iv. Learn to accept: Parents have to first accept that they “lived” in a world different from today’s. Therefore, they have to make the effort to understand and accept their children’s reasonable perspectives and priorities. Eccl. 3:1.
v. Break through your imperfection and fear: Parents should realise that they are not perfect just as their children are not also perfect. Let not your parenting be done out of fear but in love. Parents must model God’s love with their words and actions. Prov. 22:6.
SUMMARY: Allowing gap to exist between the children and parents could have a devastating effect on proper upbringing of the child. Therefore, any identified gap should be closed and bridged.
CONCLUSION: Building the gap between parents and children involves doing what is needed to be done as parents by becoming a little more
understanding and accepting what their children see as their ‘world’
LESSON THIRTY (30)
TOPIC: AVOIDING GENERATIONAL DEPARTURE
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Samuel 2:12-17
MEMORY VERSE: “Do not remove the ancient landmark Which thy fathers have set”. Proverbs 22:28
INTRODUCTION: God as laid down principles for children upbringing which must not be departed from (2Tim. 2:19). The anger of God kindles upon children who disobey God (Eph. 5:6; Eccl. 10:8). The role of parents is therefore crucial to the fulfillment of God’s plan and purpose for his children (Deuteronomy 6:6-9). While there are records of children raised in godly ways who remained on that narrow path, the Bible also has records of those who departed from the path of truth.
LESSON 1: CHILDREN THAT DEPARTED FROM GODLY UPBRINGING
“Generational departure” means:
a. It is a departure from godly upbringing. 2 Timothy 2:9
b. It is the removal of the ancient landmark which our fathers of faith have set. Proverbs 22:28.
c. It is deliberate refusal to obey the word of God with the attendant consequences. Ephesians 5:6,Eccl.10:8
a. Samson (Judges 13:3-5; 14:1-3; 8-9; 16:16-17).
b. Hophni and Phinehas; son of Eli (1 Sam. 2:12-17, 22; 1 Sam. 4:11).
c. Solomon (1Kings 11:4-7; Eccl. 1:1; Eccl.2:10-11).
d. Nadab and Abihu; sons of Aaron (Lev. 10:1; Num. 26:61).
e. Demas (2Tim. 4:10).
iv. Teacher should make corrections where necessary.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: HOW TO AVOID GENERATIONAL DEPARTURE
Teacher should explain each of the points stated below the students:
In order to keep our children on the path of righteousness, parents have the following obligations to fulfill:
i. Love God whole-heartedly (Deut. 6:4-6). Have a deep personal relationship with God. You cannot pass on to your children what you do not possess(John 14:21;15:10;John 5:3).
ii. Teach your children about God, diligently. (Deuteronomy 6:7-9).If God’s Word is on your heart continually, then you will be talking about it constantly with your children (Proverbs 4:3-4, Ephesians 6:4).
iii. You need to answer your children’s questions about God and the Christian life (Deuteronomy 6:20-25; 1 Peter 3:15)
iv. Focus on obeying and pleasing God only (Deuteronomy 6:17-18) and also train your children, in agreement with your spouse,to please God in all their endeavors.
v. Live out and model godly lifestyle before children (James 5:12;Matthew 5:16-17;Titus 2:7; 1Peter 5:3).
vi. Discipline your children in love (Heb. 12:6; Prov. 3:11-12).
vii. Inculcate emotional stability but do not indulge your children (Prov. 19:18; Colossians 3:21).
SUMMARY: If we learn from the mistake of others as indicated in lesson outline 1 and apply the seven (7) principles stated in outline 2, then we shall not fall into trap of generational departure.
CONCLUSION: To avoid generational departure, live a good legacy for your children.
LESSON THIRTY-ONE (31)
TOPIC: LASTING LEGACY
BIBLE PASSAGE: Jeremiah 35:2-11
Go unto the house of the Rechabites, and speak unto them, and bring them into the house of the LORD, into one of the chambers, and give them wine to drink.
Then I took Jaazaniah the son of Jeremiah, the son of Habaziniah, and his brethren, and all his sons, and the whole house of the Rechabites;
And I brought them into the house of the LORD, into the chamber of the sons of Hanan, the son of Igdaliah, a man of God, which was by the chamber of the princes, which was above the chamber of Maaseiah the son of Shallum, the keeper of the door:
And I set before the sons of the house of the Rechabites pots full of wine, and cups, and I said unto them, Drink ye wine.
But they said, We will drink no wine: for Jonadab the son of Rechab our father commanded us, saying, Ye shall drink no wine, neither ye, nor your sons for ever:
Neither shall ye build house, nor sow seed, nor plant vineyard, nor have any: but all your days ye shall dwell in tents; that ye may live many days in the land where ye be strangers.
Thus have we obeyed the voice of Jonadab the son of Rechab our father in all that he hath charged us, to drink no wine all our days, we, our wives, our sons, nor our daughters;
Nor to build houses for us to dwell in: neither have we vineyard, nor field, nor seed:
But we have dwelt in tents, and have obeyed, and done according to all that Jonadab our father commanded us.
But it came to pass, when Nebuchadrezzar king of Babylon came up into the land, that we said, Come, and let us go to Jerusalem for fear of the army of the Chaldeans, and for fear of the army of the Syrians: so we dwell at Jerusalem.
MEMORY VERSE: “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.” Proverbs 13:22.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: A legacy is defined as what we leave behind, to family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, communities. This includes material possessions, our history, belief systems and values (if adopted), business
practices, name, reputation and teaching (if useful). It could aso be defined as money or property bequeathed to another by will or something handed down from an ancestor or a predecessor or from the past. Legacies are rare and special gifts, from one person to another, from one generation to the next. As Christians
we should seek to leave a lasting legacy of godliness for those who come behind us. The fact is, most of what we do will not last; things we cherish will ultimately perish with the using” (Col 2:22). Unless we think seriously about the kind of legacy we are developing it is likely we will leave nothing worth inheriting.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: HOW TO LEAVE A LASTING LEGACY
A. WHAT IS LEGACY?
i. What we leave behind for family, friends, colleagues, neighbours and Communities
ii. It could be defined as money or property or material, possession, history, belief system, values, names, reputation, teaching etc bequeathed to another by will or instruction.
iii. They are rare and special gifts from one person to another or from generation to generation.
iv. Most of the things we do will ultimately perish with the using and passage of time. Therefore, we should seriously consider and think on what legacy we are leaving behind.
v. The most important legacy is the one that has eternal value and that is the lasting legacy.
vi. Believers quality of life and service to the Lord is a good lasting legacy. Prov. 1:8-9.
B. HOW TO LEAVE A LASTING LEGACY
i.. Set up example of character traits your children should develop. Be consistent with rules and consequences. 1 Tim. 4:12.
ii. Make sure your own choices reflect the teaching of Jesus and the legacy you hope to create. Job 36:10.
iii. Building your life and those whom you influence upon the eternal word or God. Prov. 30:3-5.
iv. Encourage and inspire them. Heb. 10:24-25.
v. Freely give and receive grace and forgiveness. Col 3:13.
vi. Winning souls to the Lord. Prov. 11:30.
vii. Touching the lives of those younger, even much younger, than you with the wisdom the years have given you. Target some young people. Heb. 13:16.
viii. Love your local church, and do everything in your power to make it a beacon of truth and blessing to your community.
ix. Maintaining godly character and conduct. Prov. 22:1.
x. Give out of your time and be available to them.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: BENEFITS AND CHARACTERISTICS OF A GODLY LEGACY
A. The Following Are Some Of The Benefits Of Leaving A Lasting Legacy
i. It impacts the next generation.
ii. Great visions and passion not to die off.
iii. A way of providing for the next generation.
iv. Developing next generation of leaders.
v. Having a legacy will make you a better leader. It will exert a positive impact on the way you plan and lead and how you communicate and the values you hold.
B. The Characteristics Of A Godly Legacy Include:
i. A positive legacy must be developed. It does not just happen.
ii. Must be worth inheriting.
iii. Legacy is not about celebrating your life or achievements, but maximising the influence you can have in the lives of others so that you know your work for God is not in vain. 1Cor. 15:58.
iv. Legacy is not about titles or positions (these do not “make” the leader), but credibility, influence, positive role modelling, passion and integrity.
v. Legacy is about others “buying into” our beliefs and values and following them when we are not around, because what we leave behind has true worth.
vi. Pass on the best of yourself to those you lead. Set an example.
SUMMARY: Leave a godly legacy for your children.
CONCLUSION: A godly legacy is preferable to a material legacy. Therefore, believers should work hard to leave a godly legacy behind.
LESSON THIRTY-TWO (32)
TOPIC: SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE (PART 1)
BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 5:15-20.
Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee.
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
MEMORY VERSE: “A bundle of myrrh is well beloved unto me;he shall lie all night betwixt my breast.”Songs of Solomon 1:13.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: Sexual intimacy means that a married couple (man and woman) share a special bond characterised by a shared sensual expression. They understand each other on a sexual level that has emotion behind it, instead of just being a physical act. Sexual intimacy generates pleasure and natural satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage. It is a complex expression of love and a desire to communicate such love non-verbally. It gives
the husband and wife a chance to express all the good feelings and thoughts they have towards each other.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: SOME FACTS ABOUT SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
Teacher should use questions and answers approach to determine the level of knowledge of the students at the same time establish the fact about sexual intimacy.
•Question: Is sex in marriage wrong or dirty?
•Answer: No because God established it. 1 Cor. 7:2-5.
•Question: Why did God establish sex in marriage?
•Answers: i. For mutual pleasure. Gen. 2:24-25.
ii. For procreation. Gen. 1:28.
•Question: Under what condition is sexual intimacy allowed by God?
•Answer: In marriage. Gen. 4:1.
•Question: What role does satisfactory sexual intimacy provide in marriage?
•Answers: i. It develops deep physical, psychological and emotional relationship.
ii. It provides opportunity for care and mutual demonstration of love. Song of Solomon 4:1-7.
•Question: What is the duration of marital relationship?
•Answer: It is a life-long affair for married couples. Matt. 19:4-6.
•Question: What sort of pleasure could both husband and wife derive from sexual activities?
•Answer: Orgasm or sexual climax. Song of Solomon 1:2;7:3; Prov. 5:19.
•Question: Should a spouse hoard or withhold sex?
•Answer: No. 1 Cor. 7:5.
•Question: Did God create sexual pleasure, desires and body responses to touch?
•Answer: Yes. God gave the gift of pleasure. James 1:17.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: BENEFITS OF SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE
To save time, teacher should reel out the tri-podal benefits of sex in marriage presented in the table below. However, student’s knowledge should still be tested.
•Reduces the risk of developing prostrate cancer
• Reduces waist and scrotal pain
• Increases sperm counts
• Improves cardiovascular health
• Increases immunity and body fitness
• Increases level of testosterone
• Promotes long life
• Improves bladder control
• Relieves menstrual and premenstrual cramps
• Improves fertility
• Builds stronger pelvic muscles
• Helps produce more vagina lubrications
• Potentially protects against endometriosis (the growth of tissue outside uterus)
• Improves the production of the hormone oestrogen which protects against heart disease and also determines a woman’s body scent
• Regulates blood pleasure
• Burns calories
• Strengthens muscles
• Reduce risk of heart diseases, stroke and
• Increases libido and reduces inordinate
• Promotes better sleep and headache relief
• Emotionally boost confidence, increases
happiness, level of trust, intimacy and love
• Improves ability to perceive, identify and express emotions
• Reduces stress and makes couples look
younger and live longer
• Helps create a bond between the husband
and his wife.
SUMMARY: Sex in marriage or legitimate sexual intimacy is approved by God for several benefits.
CONCLUSION: Sex in marriage is pleasurable and it creates intimacy between a man and his wife.
LESSON THIRTY-THREE (33)
TOPIC: SEXUAL INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE (PART 2)
BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 7:2-5
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
MEMORY VERSE: “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established.” Proverbs 24:3.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: We have learnt that sexual intimacy creates a special bond between a man and his wife with basic facts supported
by scriptures and its numerous benefits. It is equally necessary to discuss some of the challenges facing couples in the area of sexual intimacy (SOS.5:1-6). It should be noted that in some homes or families certain problems or conflicts can be traced to unsatisfactory sexual relationship (1 Cor.7:2-5). The good news is that these challenges can be remedied.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: LIKELY CAUSES OF SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
While some challenges of sexual intimacy are spiritual, quite a lot of these challenges can be traced to the following:
i. Myths, misconception, wrong cultural orientations or unscriptural spiritual inclinations about sex, e.g. “women should not initiate sex or enjoy it”
ii. Fear of conceiving another baby. Some couples either lack the knowledge of appropriate family planning techniques or have refused to deploy the techniques that can prevent unwanted pregnancy. Hosea 4:6.
iii. Previous experiences of sexual abuse directly or indirectly.
iv. Libido (sex drive) issues or inadequate foreplay (inability to discover and/or explore the erogenous part of the body).
v. Health challenges which may either be physiological or psychological e.g erectile dysfunction, frigidity (cold-heartedness), not-in-the-mood syndrome, complications during childbirth, illness, etc.
vi. Infidelity and lack of trust. Heb.13:4.
vii. Sometimes, sexual appetite decreases in women after menopause whereas there is minimal decline in the sexual drive of men. Gen. 18:12.
viii. Lack of understanding of love languages and/or things that turn them on or off
ix. Communication issues and busy schedules.
x. Environmental factors – being conscious of the presence of a third party in the surrounding (children, relatives, neighbours, etc), unpleasant noise, etc.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: SOME REMEDIES FOR SEXUAL INTIMACY CHALLENGES
i. Prayer: Couples should commit their sex life into God’s hand the same way they do for other aspects of their lives. This is a great antidote to demonic influences. Phil. 4:6-7.
ii. Counselling: It is not a shameful thing to seek medical/psychological help when faced with sexual intimacy challenges. Prov. 11:14; 24:6.
iii. Communications: If you observe that your sex life is on the decline, bring up the topic and talk it out. Amos 3:3.
iv. Time and stress management: Married couples should create time out of their tight schedules to be intimate and cut off stress-inducing factors as much as possible. Eccl. 3:1;8:6.
v. Self-development: Couples should look inward and work on their weakness and the immediate environment that could turn off either of the
party. 2Cor. 13:5.
SUMMARY: The admonition of Apostle Paul to the couples in 1 Corinthians 7:3 which says “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband”, is a very good solution that if prayerfully applied can solve many sexual-intimacy challenges.
CONCLUSION: Avoiding your spouse especially in the area of sexual intimacy is creating a space that will be occupied by something or someone
LESSON THIRTY-FOUR (34)
TOPIC: MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS
BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 7:6-27
MEMORY VERSE: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: In Christian marriage, every man must cleave to his own wife, and every wife cleaves to her own husband (Gen.2:24), The Bible commends chaste matrimony in all sorts of men, and threatens utter destruction from God against whoremongers and adulterers
LESSON OUTLINE 1: MEANING AND CAUSES OF MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS
• Question: What is marital unfaithfulness?
i. It is failure of the spouse (either or both) to keep the marital vows.
ii. It is cheating on a partner in marriage.
ii. It is loss of commitment and dedication to a spouse in all spheres.
• Question: What are the likely causes of marital unfaithfulness?
i. Failure to provide for the basic needs of the partner/home. 1 Tim. 5:8.
ii. Unbelief or no respect for the position of the word of God on infidelity.
iii. Lack of commitment or problem of unseriousness to the marital vows
iv. Lack of contentment. 1 Tim. 6:6.
v. Bad company or evil associations. 1 Cor.15:33.
vi. Lack of sef-control. 1 Cor. 7:5; Titus 2:4,6
LESSON OUTLINE 2: EFFECTS OF MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS AND THE WAY OUT
• Question: What are the effects and consequences of marital unfaithfulness?
i. It produces district and erodes trust among couples.
ii. Can lead to unforgiveness, hatred and bitterness. Prov. 15:17.
iii. Sexual activity with strange woman/man can result in various sexually transmitted diseases (STD) Prov. 7:23.
iv. It can lead into separation and divorce. 1 Cor. 7:10; Matt. 19:1-9.
v. It can lead into corrupt and immoral children
vi. It can cause peace to cease in the affected homes. Prov. 14:1; Jer. 6:14.
• Question:What are the possible solutions to the problem of marital unfaithfulness?
i. Couples must learn to satisfy themselves sexually.
ii. Married couple must embrace the divine principle of “godliness and contentment”. Prov. 5:15-20, 1Tim. 6:6.
iii. Partners should learn to appreciate each other.
iv. Couple should learn the act of sexual love making
v. Couples should understand the sexual need of each other and satisfy it.
vi. Trust and genuine love should not be compromised.
vii. Couples should fear God always. Eph. 5:21; Prov. 8:13; 2Tim. 2:19.
SUMMARY: Married couples must avoid marital unfaithfulness and its consequences.
CONCLUSION: If you are unfaithful in your marriage, the wrath of God is imminent. Your marriage must remain honourable in all things.
LESSON THIRTY- FIVE (35)
TOPIC: DIVORCE AND RE-MARRIAGE
BIBLE PASSAGE: Matthew 19:3-12
MEMORY VERSE: ” For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.” Malachi 2:16.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment (Matt. 19:6). God realises though, that, since marriage involves two sinful human beings, divorces are going to occur. He laid down some laws, in the Old Testament, in order to protect the rights of divorcees, especially women (Deut 24:1-4). However, Jesus pointed out that these laws were given because of the hardness of people’s hearts, not because such laws were God’s desire (Matt 19:8). Therefore, it is important to remember Malachi 2:16. The pain, confusion, and frustration most people experience after a
divorce are surely part of the reason that God hates divorce. Even more difficult, biblically, than the question of divorce, is the question of remarriage.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE
•Question: What is divorce?
•Answer: It is putting away one’s spouse. Mal. 2:16.
•Question: Are there any biblical ground for divorce? If yes, mention them.
i. Instance of sexual immorality. Matt. 5:32; Matt. 19:9.
ii. Instance of abandonment by an unbelieving partner. 1 Cor. 7:15.
However, God has called us to peace.
•Question: What are the first steps to take whenever there are issues in marriage?
•Answer: The first steps comprise confession, forgiveness, reconciliation and restoration.
•Question: At what time or level is divorce an option? Though, hated by God.
•Answer: When confession, forgiveness, reconciliation and restoration have failed.
•Question: Are there other reasons or grounds on which people seek for divorce?
•Answer: Yes. The grounds are: abuse of spouse (physical or emotional), child abuse, addiction-pornography, drugs, alcohol, criminal activities, financial mismanagement, gambling, threat to life, etc.
•Question: Should a couple remain in marriage when there is threat to life of either of the spouse or a criminal intent?
•Answer: No. Separation for some is appropriate under such instance.
•Question: Why is separation for some and not divorce a welcome development?
•Answer: To allow for repentance and restoration.
•Question: Why should divorce be considered as the last option?
•Answer: Because God hates putting away i.e. divorce. Mal. 2:16.
•Question: What is the duration of separation?
•Answer: Separation could be short or long depending on partner’s willingness to repent and change his/her way.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: GROUNDS FOR REMARRIAGE AFTER A DIVORCE.
•Question: What are the exceptional clauses which suggest re-marriage in the Bible?
•Answer: a. Fornication (except it be for fornication) Matt. 19:9.
b.”If the unbelieving depart, let him depart”-A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases. 1 Cor 7:15.
•Question: Is there any phrase in the Bible that suggests re-marriage?
•Answer: Yes. Jesus said .. And marries another” Matt. 19:9.
•Question: Is sexual integrity part of the marital bond?
•Answer: Yes. God sees the two partners as one flesh through sexual relationship in marriage. Eph. 5:31.
•Question: If one spouse is an unbeliever and continues to be, can the believing spouse continue the marriage or depart?
•Answer: The believing spouse can exercise the option to depart if his or her life is threatened. 1 Cor 7:15.
•Question: Between divorce and making peace with the other partner, Which one does God support?
•Answer: Making peace (God has called us to peace) 1 Cor. 7:15c.
•Question: Is there any reason why it is sometime good not to marry accord to 1 Cor. 7:1?
•Answer: Yes. To allow such 7:32-35 devote attention to the things of God without distraction. 1 Cor 7:32-35.
•Question: Is there any connection between “death of a spouse” and “re-marriage” ?
•Answer: Yes. The surviving spouse is free to re-marry another believer. 1 Cor 7:39
SUMMARY: God’s factor is paramount in all cases of re-marriage so that the intending partner will not offend God and His Spirit.
CONCLUSION: Regardless of the ground for divorce, a couple can, through God’s grace, learn to forgive and begin rebuilding their marriage.
LESSON THIRTY-SEVEN (37)
TOPIC: PETER, THE APOSTLE
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BIBLE PASSAGE: Matthew 16:13-19.
MEMORY VERSE: “Insomuch that they brought forth the sick into the streets, and laid them on beds and couches, that at the least the shadow of Peter passing by might overshadow some of
LESSON INTRODUCTION: Apostle Peter played a significant role in the history of the church despite his background (Acts 4:13; 5:15). We want to learn some crucial lessons from his life and ministry.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: BRIEF HISTORY AND CHARACTER
Teacher should ask the students questions as presented below and allow them to respond according to the scripture attached to the questions.
•Question: Where was Peter born, according to John 1:44?
•Question: What was his profession according to Luke 5:1-2?
•Question: The Lord Jesus christened Peter as Cephas. What is the translation of Cephas in Aramaic, according to John 1:42?
•Question: What was the relationship between Jesus Christ and Peter, according to Matthew 4:18-20?
•Answer: Disciple or follower/master relationship.
•Question: According to Mark 3:14-16 and Luke 6:13, what was Peter ordained to be called?
•Question: What was Peter’s commission, according to Matthew 10:18 and John 21:15-17?
•Answer: Leader of other Apostles
•Question: Was Peter single or married, according to Matthew 8:14; Luke 3:38?
•Question: How did Peter elect to die according to historical record?
•Answer: Died as a Martyr (crucified upside down).
•Question: Why did he elect to die like that?
•Answer: Because he felt not worthy to die the same way Jesus died.
•Question: Describe Peter in terms of worldly possession, according to Matthew 4:22; Luke 5:11.
•Answer: A person who surrendered everything for Christ.
•Question: Describe Peter in terms of response to pressure and correction, according to Mark 8:31-33; John 18:11
•Answer: Quick to listen, made mistakes, but ready to humbly take correction.
•Question: Would you qualify Peter as a pretender or a Christian, according to Luke 22:61-62?
•Answer: He was a repentant Christian.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: ACHIEVEMENTS AND LESSONS FROM HIS LIFE/MINISTRY
-Students should identify what Peter did which were unique, according to the following Scriptures.
-Teacher should allow the students to read the Scriptures and obtain answers.
i. Matthew 16:15-17————First to catch the revelation that Jesus was the son of God.
ii. Mark 9:2-6———-He was with the Lord Jesus at the mount of transfiguration.
ii. Acts 2:14; 37,41———He first led 3000 souls to Christ. His other sermon led about 5000 souls to Christ.
iv. Matthew 14:25-29———Peter walked upon the sea by faith.
v. Acts 3:1-7———-He healed a lame man at the Beautiful gate.
vi. Acts 5:14-16———–Highly anointed and healed several sick people.
vii. Matthew 19:29————-He left everything and followed Christ.
vii. Heb. 12:2; Matt 14:28-31——-Believers should keep their focus on Christ always.
ix. James 1:19; Col. 4:6———-Believers should be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to wrath.
x. Heb. 4:16————-Believers who genuinely confess and repent will receive forgiveness.
xi. Phil. 1:20-21, Rom. 8:17————Believers can glorify God in life and death.
SUMMARY: Peter lived a good and exemplary life for believers to follow.
CONCLUSION: Christians should allow God to grow them like Peter from a baby Christian to the carrier of anointing.
LESSON THIRTY-EIGHT (38)
TOPIC: PSALMS, HYMNS AND SPIRITUAL SONGS
BIBLE PASSAGE: Psalms 33:1-8
Rejoice in the LORD, O ye righteous: for praise is comely for the upright.
Praise the LORD with harp: sing unto him with the psaltery and an instrument of ten strings.
Sing unto him a new song; play skilfully with a loud noise.
For the word of the LORD is right; and all his works are done in truth.
He loveth righteousness and judgment: the earth is full of the goodness of the LORD.
By the word of the LORD were the heavens made; and all the host of them by the breath of his mouth.
He gathereth the waters of the sea together as an heap: he layeth up the depth in storehouses.
Let all the earth fear the LORD: let all the inhabitants of the world stand in awe of him.
MEMORY VERSE: “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord”. Colossians 3:16.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: Our study today focuses on the use of psalms, hymns and other spiritual songs. The psalmist admonishes us to sing psalms unto the Lord. Also, Apostle Paul admonished Christians to edify one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. One very good habit believers should cultivate is the act of singing hymns and spiritual songs. It is
one of the ways by which we can load our lives with the word of God.
LESSON OUTLINE 1: PSALMS
•Question: What is the literal meaning of Psalms?
i. It means “song sung with a harp”. Psalms 98:5.
ii. It is singing to God with a voice. Psalms 98:5.
•Question: What are the significances of Psalms or what do we use Psalms for?
i. To express the wondrous ways of God. Psalms 105:2; Psalms 33:2-5; 1 Chronicles 16:9.
ii. To express or reflect the mercies of God in the lives of people and individuals.
iii. To engage services of thanksgiving or worship to the Almighty God. James 5:13.
iv. Psalms are instruments which grant us access to the presence of God when it combines with holiness. Psalms 95:2.
•Question: What are the types of Psalms?
i. Psalms of thanksgiving. Psalms 30.
ii. Psalms of praise. Psalms 117; 145:1.
iii. Prophetic psalms. Psalms 2:1-12; 16:1-11.
iv. Psalms of repentance or pertinence. Psalms 6:1-10; 25:1-22
v. Intercessory psalms. Psalms 20:1-9; 67:1-7.
vi. Psalm for the afflicted. Psalms 3:1-8; 4:1-8.
vii. Educational psalms. Psalms 1:1-6; 5:1-12.
viii. Historical psalms. Psalms 78:1-72; 105:1-45.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: HYMNS AND SPIRITUAL SONGS
•Question: What are hymns and spiritual songs?
i. They are songs, psalms, melodies, canticles and passages from the Bible rendered unto the Lord from our hearts. Eph 5:19, Col. 3:16.
ii. They are means by which believers can admonish or edify or encourage one another. Eph. 5:19.
iii. It is a means of expressing grace from our hearts to the Lord. Col. 3:16.
iv. It is an important order of service or part of service which Christ Himself took part in. Matt. 26:30.
•Question: How do we come about the hymns we sing today?
•Answer: Holy people of God were and are inspired by the Spirit of God to write the songs on particular spiritual subject. Psalms 42:8.
•Question: What should be the habit of believers to spiritual songs?
i. They should sing spiritual songs often. Col. 3:16.
ii. Believers should avoid secular songs which glorify the flesh and the devil.
•Question: What benefits do believers stand to gain by singing spiritual songs?
•Answer: It is a way of loading their lives with the word of God. Col. 3:16.
•Question: How can people understand the message of the songs?
•Answer: By being born again and yielding one’s body, soul and spirit to the Lord. Romans 6:13.
SUMMARY: Believers must inculcate the habit of singing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs unto the Lord.
CONCLUSION: One of the ways one can maximise gains from psalms, hymns, and songs is for one to be born again and be filled with the Holy Spirit. Hymns come from divine inspiration. Therefore, one must be in the Spirit to get the best from them.
RCCG SUNDAY SCHOOL TEACHER’S MANUAL THIRD QUARTER REVIEW: (SUMMARY OF LESSONS 27-38)